Valentine’s Day is once again approaching – a day for couples everywhere to celebrate the love they’ve found with each other. But although the concept sounds idyllic, preparations for the big day can be stressful and exhausting. Such high expectations surround the event that if any part of it is poorly executed it could lead to raging rows and even break-ups. It’s amazing how quickly an idyll can descend into disaster.
Whether you’ve just met on dating sites or you’ve been seeing each other for years, don’t let badly judged Valentine’s plans ruin the potential of the holiday. To keep you on track, here are a few dos and don’ts of choosing where to go…
DO
DO make it personal
The best way to make a positive impression on a date is to go for somewhere that means something to both of you. This could be where you first met or where you had your first date, for example. Or it could be a place from your partner’s childhood. Choosing a venue this way will ensure a fantastic surprise and an evening of fond nostalgia.
DO be original
Don’t be tempted by the bog-standard restaurant with Italian food and a romantic feel. Try to pick something original your partner will find really special. You could even base the location around one of their favourite hobbies. Take them to a play if they’re a theatre fanatic. Buy tickets to their favourite band. Be unpredictable, imaginative and use what you know to decide on a place they’ll love.
DO make it special
A certain amount of effort is definitely required here. Not making enough effort will be the quickest way to offend. No matter what your own views of the holiday are, your other half may well feel differently. So make sure this isn’t just another date – make it special.
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DON’T overdo it
While not making enough effort isn’t advisable, you don’t want to overdo it either. Grand excursions abroad, expensive hotels, Michelin-star restaurants – these are the types of plans that might well scare someone off, or at least make them feel guilty about not being able to pay their share of the bill. Therefore, try not to spend too much and don’t make it too lavish.
DON’T be cheesy
The cliché of Valentine’s Day could lead you down a dangerous route. While it’s good to embrace the romance of the holiday, don’t be too cheesy. Teddy bears, ridiculous bouquets of flowers and singing messages are all things to avoid. Think along the lines that less is more when it comes to romance. For example, one single red rose speaks volumes.
DON’T be insensitive
Make sure you don’t book a surprise that could potentially make your partner feel uncomfortable. Dancing lessons, karaoke or anything else that requires forced exhibitionism should be avoided at all costs. Be sensitive to their interests and reservations.
Whether you’re professional dating or student dating, make sure you get the venue right this Valentine’s Day.